If I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say, “It can’t happen to me”………
Denial is quite the killer. It’s silent, it’s comforting, and then its effects strike when you aren’t prepared for your “moment of truth.” You need to critically evaluate how you would react in a defensive encounter, going through the steps and then letting one question really sink into your soul: If you were attacked, what would be going through your head at that instant? What would you be willing to have done, paid, sacrificed, bought, trained for, in order to make this situation go another way?
I’m guessing that, when faced with death, or serious bodily harm, your answer would’ve been simple: I would have done anything to be prepared to turn the tide of the present attack.
Consider these scenarios:
Do you know what to do if a threatening man starts walking towards you in the parking lot?
What is your first response for you and your loved ones if your door at home gets kicked in?
What would you do if 3 young men in the park approached you on your daily walk?
What are your options if a man draws a gun and tells you to get in his car?
You can learn answers to all of these questions and learn how to respond appropriately with adequate preparation and training. I teach women these things, and it blows their minds when they realize that yes, there are answers, there is a right response to take, and you can learn it just like any of the thousands of skills you’ve learned in your life.
First, you have to kick denial out of your life before you’ll realize that you need to know those answers and it will take some time and investment to learn them.
Who is the “real” first responder to a self-defense situation? No, it isn’t the police; their job is to investigate a crime unless you’re a person of high importance like a high-ranking politician and then you’re provided some protection. The first responder is YOU, it’s the person being attacked because attacks are over in seconds and outside help is minutes away. Again, although you would hope they would protect you if they are right there while you’re being attacked, police cannot protect all of the citizens and are called after an incident occurs. It is in your hands to know how to protect yourself and loved ones. Will you be ready? You don’t want an attack to be your motivator to learn the skills necessary to defend yourself.
You know times are changing when the Miss USA pageant brings up questions about women’s self-defense.
When asked about sexual assaults on college campuses during the Miss USA Pageant, Miss Nevada, Nia Sanchez, said this, “I think more awareness is very important so women can learn how to protect themselves. Myself, as a fourth-degree black belt, I learned from a young age that you need to be confident and be able to defend yourself. And I think that’s something that we should start to really implement for a lot of women.” That’s a great answer, and the judges seemed to think she was the best of the group by voting her Miss USA.
Not everyone thought she was so spot on when it came to the need for women’s self-defense. One of her critics said this afterwards: “Sorry Miss Nevada, but we do not need to teach women how to better defend ourselves. We need to teach men not to feel entitled to rape.”
Seriously?!?! Let’s pull that big, fluffy white blanket of denial over our heads……
Let’s see how this situation would play out in real life: Mr. Rapist grabs a women’s hair and yells at her to be quiet and lay on the ground. The woman then says, “Don’t you know that this isn’t right and you are not entitled to rape me!” I’m sure the rapist would agree with her and leave her alone.
Don’t you wish there wasn’t evil in the world and terrible people that do horrible things? Me, too. Don’t you wish there weren’t wars, children starving, and disease that kills? Me, too. There has been evil in the world since the beginning of time, and what denial doesn’t want you to realize is that bad things happen to good people all of the time. Don’t think you’re immune, or you’ll pay the price, and the price may be your life.
Everyone likes a good Top Ten list. So, why do you need more awareness skills and self-defense tools?
- Crime can happen to anyone at anytime of the day in a “good” or “bad” area. It doesn’t matter if you are male or female or if you are in a park or in your home. Predators strike at any time of day at all locations.
- Become empowered, gain confidence, knowledge and skills. Learn how to read body language and use your body language and verbal defense to stop predators. These skills alone will dissuade a predator from picking you! Walk with confidence and be aware. Have the defensive hardware options available and know how to use them effectively.
- Consider this a cheap life insurance policy. Look at what you spent money on in the past year. If you learned skills to decrease your chance of being a target for something vicious wouldn’t that be a wise investment compared to most of that other stuff?
- If nothing else, do it for your children and those that count on you because you’re in charge of keeping them safe after all. You taught your children to swim so they wouldn’t drown and you showed them how to cross the street without getting hit by a car. You have many people counting on you to be here tomorrow, I think that should be motivation to do what you can with your life to prepare for what you can. Sure, you may be struck by lightning, but you can prepare for an attack.
- Be a role model for your sons and daughters or those that love you and look up to you. Give them the confidence they need and show them how you value your life and they should value theirs. Be the change you want to see in the world.
- It is better to have a plan and not need it, than need a plan and not have it if someone tries to hurt or kill you. Again, I think it’s much better to invest time and money into training that I pray you’ll never need, than not do it and need it someday. HAVE A PLAN! This is far better than no plan or a faulty plan that has you getting hurt or killed while some thug walks off laughing.
- Crime is on the rise with the economic hard times and your chances of a victim are also increased. Bad dudes from the gang MS13 are trickling in every day into the US, but there are also a high percentage of “opportunistic psychopaths” who are “normally good” but will exhibit psychopathic behavior if given the opportunity, i.e. police are overwhelmed for one reason or another. In our “intact society” crime statistics are on the rise. In a disaster like a hurricane, it can skyrocket.
- Renting a police officer or personal security guard is very expensive. Another saying is “I carry a gun because a cop is too heavy”. It would be fantastic to have someone guard us all of the time, but this is not feasible, unless you’re Mayor Bloomberg. He is one of the most anti-gun people on the planet and what does he do? He surrounds himself with people carrying guns! Is he really worth protecting so much more than you or me?
- Studies show learning a new skill will increase your happiness. Don’t we all want more happiness? Isn’t it always in our best interest to make us a better person?If you really need to dig this deep to get motivation to learn self-defense skills, well, there you have it. Do it to make yourself happier!
- You get only one life to live and you need to fight like your life depends on it because it does. You get but just one shot at living in this world. Why not have it go the way you want it to? There is no room for some random stranger to cause pain or a nightmare to scar you the rest of your life. Live with boldness; don’t let someone destroy your life. “Go BIG or go home!” I choose to go BIG!!!