Molly was driving down the interstate to go visit her boyfriend when she notices she has a flat tire. She immediately pulls over and assesses the situation and quickly realizes she needs to call AAA to have someone come change her tire. A few cars stop, but she refuses to open her door because the people look scary and she tells them that help is just minutes away.
Molly has now been waiting for an hour on the side of the road when an Audi A8 pulls over and a very handsome man in a suit comes to her car door. He tells her that he can change her tire in ten minutes so she can get going again and that it would make his day to help someone in need.
After all he is a good looking guy, in a great suit, and he really wants to help her and, not wanting to insult the kind offer of the man, she opens her door. Molly is only half out when he grabs ahold of her arm and shows his knife to her in his other hand. The man tells Molly to get in his trunk or he will kill her and then he throws her purse in on top of her.
Slam…the trunk shuts and Molly is terrified for her life.
The man takes off down the road and starts ranting about raping her, beating her and then killing her. To make a horrific man even more crazy sounding, she hears him turn on the stereo and sing along with the music, as if he is the happiest man in the world and he didn’t just say all those terrible things to her……….
The following statement probably has more meaning to Molly than before her encounter: “The normal are inclined to visualize the psychopath as one who’s as monstrous in appearance as he is in mind, which is about as far from the truth as one could well get…” from William March, in the book The Bad Seed. I bet Molly will never assume someone is a good person just by their looks again and my hope is that you don’t either.
What would you do if you were stranded on the side of the road waiting for help and had no way to defend yourself? Odds are that a very nice person would come and change your tire and you wouldn’t have any problems. But, are you one to play with odds? I know I don’t play with odds when it comes to my life. How would you feel if an evil person came to help and you couldn’t protect yourself or your family?
I will talk about why, as a woman, it is important to include having a gun, a few misconceptions of guns, and why women need to share the responsibility with men as far as protecting lives of those we know and don’t know.
My motto is “Plan for the best, but prepare for the worst.” I don’t take my life for granted and I realize that, as a woman, I have a much larger chance that I will be assaulted at some point in my life. I have a great idea of how many predators and psychopaths are walking in society and my chances of crossing their path are quite good.
You need to develop your own personalized defensive plan, but my plan involves a little black tool that weighs 20 oz. Why? A firearm is the ultimate equalizer between a man and woman. It is said that “God made man and woman, but it is Sam Colt, the father of the modern revolver, that made them equal.”
I can have amazing Situational Awareness skills and know a few martial arts moves to defend myself, but I could be stuck in a rest area bathroom stall when a 250 pound man comes in to harm me. I’m going to let him contemplate the blackness of the muzzle of my M&P Shield and the glow of the laser that is shining brightly right between his eyes. I think he will leave when I give him the option to get the hell out or I will shoot. There may be situations where you have time to “try” less lethal defenses and there are times when lethal is the only choice. It’s for times like that when a pistol is truly a “girl’s best friend”.
Guns are life saving and threat stopping devices. I know that having a pistol and being proficient in its use has given me so much confidence and security for many years. I’m talking about the opportunity to live my normal life with the confidence that, if a psychopath tries to destroy my life, he’s going to have to fight me first.
All firearms take a responsibility for their use. I’m certainly not suggesting you go buy a 38 Special with a pink grip and toss it in your purse without training or going through the mental exercises required to be a responsibly armed citizen. They need to be handled with great care and respect, just as driving a car down the road does.
Many critics focus on the danger of guns when the reality is that buckets of water, staircases (as mentioned in Jack Spirko’s article), side effects from prescription medications and numerous other things kill far more people than guns do every year.
A common misconception amongst the students I teach is that a gun might just fire on its own. Just as pencils do not misspell words all on their own, a gun will not shoot by itself. It surprises them that it takes, on average, between 6-12 pounds of pressure (depending on the handgun design) to press the trigger with a finger before the gun will fire.
A journey that I am on with my teammates is to empower as many women with confidence and safe gun handling skills to protect themselves and their loved ones.
As a woman, you may love to be taken care of and protected by your significant other, but what if he isn’t home or around when something bad happens? Don’t you wish you could predict when bad things will happen? That’s just not possible. In our appointment driven society, no alarm will pop up on your iPhone reminding you that you have 15 minutes until a “critical defensive encounter”, so you may as well get ready. Another thing to consider – if your boyfriend/husband is carrying a gun, and something happens, how much do you think your chances for prevailing will increase if you both are armed, instead of just him? As the joke goes, you may be an atheist and not like guns, but if a bad guy shows up, you’ll be praying to God for a gun real quick.
“Oh, but the police will come to my rescue if I need them” is a statement I hear often. Really? It takes an average of ten minutes for the police to arrive after dialing 911 and assaults can be over in seconds. I’m no math major, but I think the police will show up to investigate the scene of the crime, not prevent it. In your moment of truth, it is YOU that needs to be able to protect and fight for your life.
My team has been approached by wives of soldiers deployed in the service of our country. These women want to be able to take care of themselves and their families while their primary protector is away. The brave soldiers have enough to worry about fearing for their own lives and have deep-seated worries about who will protect their wives and children while they are gone. I have had messages of thanks from soldiers for providing this small comfort to them during their deployment, so I know first hand this is the case.
…. the car carrying Molly comes to a sudden stop and, as the man opens the trunk, he’s greeted with Boom! Boom! Boom! Mr. Psychopath didn’t count on the fact that Molly had a pistol in her purse and was clearly motivated to use it.
Molly packed the one thing that ended up saving her life that day and the same man she shot was responsible for many other rapes and deaths.
This is my recollection of a true story that I had heard 19 years ago and it was part of what motivated me to start carrying a gun. How many women a year could “turn the table” on their crisis situation if they had a gun themselves?
It is time for you to rise up and take control of your personal safety and know that you have a way to guard your body and home. No person has the right to do harm to you or your family. I think it’s time to declare war on all the evil men that think they can wantonly victimize any woman they want.
Yes, women are smaller and weaker than men, but we have all the tools and smarts to protect ourselves and it’s time to stop living passively and in fear.
If your avoidance skills fail you, and the Devil is upon you, consider what you will hope for at that moment as a tool to prevail. For me, that’s a handgun, the great equalizer.
Be Safe. Be Empowered. Be LOADED!